On Love, Care, and the Radical Act of Listening

Some truths are whispered. Others are buried beneath years of silence, shame, or systemic denial. The books gathered in this reading list do not shout—but they are anything but quiet. They engage with the subtle and seismic forces that shape our relationships, our politics, and our inner lives. Each, in its own way, asks us to listen more carefully—to the unsaid, the unheard, the deliberately dismissed.
Nos silences by Laurence Joseph, D’amour et de force by Daniela Rea Gomez, Communion by bell hooks, Vivre avec les hommes by Manon Garcia, and Soyons Woke by Pierre Tevanian share common ground: these are books that do not flatter our certainties—they challenge them, with grace, precision, and courage. They speak not only to what is happening in the world, but to how we live with one another within it. To read them together is to tune ourselves to deeper frequencies—those where pain, resistance, and hope quietly converge.
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Nos silences by Laurence Joseph turns our attention inward—to the quiet spaces within and between us. Silence isn’t merely the absence of sound; it’s a language of its own, rich with meaning. At times soothing, protective, or comforting, silence can also feel imposed, isolating, or oppressive.
Clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Laurence Joseph explores this complexity with poetic clarity and psychological depth, examining silence not as emptiness but as expression: the words left unsaid, the grief unspoken, the shame unnamed. Each of us carries a personal repertoire of silences—the things we didn’t say, the things we longed to hear. Silence can shelter, but it can also wound.
With rare sensitivity, Joseph invites us to reflect on the many forms silence takes in our lives: listening, concentration, secrecy, mourning, breakups, trauma, and shame. Drawing on literature, art, philosophy, mythology, and universal human experience, he immerses us in the paradoxes of silence—its virtues and its vices—guiding us with grace, depth, and quiet power.
Nos silences reminds us that silence is never neutral. In learning to recognize its many shapes and effects, we begin to understand not only silence itself, but ourselves—and one another—anew.
Nos Silences, Laurence Joseph, Autrement, collection Les grands mots
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Why and how do we care? What is love, and what is obligation?
In D’amour et de force, journalist and writer Daniela Rea explores, from a feminist perspective, the social and familial legacies that shape our everyday practices of care. Drawing on her own experience as a mother and daughter, she weaves together autobiography, personal testimonies, and literary and theoretical reflections to examine the demands placed on women to care in patriarchal societies.
Through a constellation of stories featuring women marked by violence yet devoted to supporting those they love, Rea offers a powerful choral narrative. The result is a moving, multifaceted meditation on care—and a hopeful search for more egalitarian, shared ways of nurturing one another.
D’amour et de force : une généalogie du soin, by Daniela Rea Gomez, tr. by Amandine Semat and Anna Touati, éditions Ici Bas
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In Communion, bell hooks explores how women experience love in all its forms: love of self, love of others, and love of community. Her starting point is an observation: in a patriarchal society, women are taught that they are only truly complete when they are loved by a man. This conditioning leads them to lose themselves, to bend to expectations, to confuse sincere love with painful attachment.
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Communion by bell hooks, translated by Hajer Gam and Lorraine Delavaud, Points (Seuil)
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In Amour, Jamal Ouazzani reclaims love as a radical, emancipatory force. Drawing from his experience as an Arab man in France, he invites us to rethink everything we’ve been taught about desire, masculinity, and identity. This isn’t just an essay—it’s a call to dismantle toxic norms, to free love from orientalist clichés and religious taboos, and to imagine new ways of being together, joyfully and justly.
Urgent, poetic, and unflinchingly honest, Amour is the kind of book you want to press into someone’s hands and say: read this—it will shift something in you.
Amour : Révolutionner l’amour grâce à la sagesse arabe et/ou musulmane, by Jamal Ouazzani, Leduc Société
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A philosopher deeply engaged with the dynamics between women and men, Manon Garcia has written extensively on female submission, the politics of consent, and the gendered injustices embedded in heterosexual relationships.
As she is approaching forty, Garcia voices a simple but urgent desire: to live in the world without constantly fearing the sexism and sexual violence that she, her friends, and her daughters might encounter.
Garcia has witnessed the transformations sparked by the #MeToo movement—but also the backlash, as masculinist voices grow louder in their attempt to reassert women’s place as the “second sex.” When she learned of the crimes committed against Gisèle Pelicot, Garcia felt that this judicial case embodied everything she had spent her career examining.
At first, she hesitated to attend the Mazan trial, but soon she came to realize that she had no other choice—not just as a philosopher, but as a woman. She had to write about the trial, about her experience of it, and about the question that continues to haunt her: is it still possible to live with men?
Vivre avec les hommes, Manon Garcia, Climats
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With Soyons Woke, Pierre Tevanian offers a sharp and generous reply to the moral panic surrounding so-called “wokism.” Against the backdrop of reactionary backlash, Tevanian refuses to play defense.
Instead, he embraces what the label seeks to caricature: a politics grounded in empathy, justice, and the refusal to ignore structural harm.
His call is clear: if “wokism” doesn’t exist, let’s invent it—rooted not in fear or dogma, but in a commitment to care.
Soyons Woke, Playdoyer pour les bons sentiments, by Pierre Tevanian, éditions Divergences
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